Long-term care: Meet three couples whose romance lasted more than 55 years


Adele and Ivan Limar: “We Wanted to Be Together”

Adele and Evan Limar are together in their 71st year, and Adele applies it to one straightforward advice: never hold a grudge.

The couple, who are both 94, live at Chartwell Wenley Long Term Care Residence in Mississauga and met in 1950, when they lived in the same apartment building in Hamilton. After seven months of dating and dancing heavily in nightclubs around Hamilton, Evan gave Adele a surprise Christmas gift that continues to amaze her to this day.

He presented his then girlfriend with an ironing board – not the most romantic of gifts. She did not know what to become of it. “I said ‘what is this?” And I was not very happy. He said, ‘How come you don’t come? I said, ‘What’s the point of smiling in this?’ Evan saved the day by offering a real gift – an engagement ring – and proposal. The pair got married only three weeks later.

Adele does not make fun of Evan against him and says that one of the strongest aspects of their partnership, usually his ability to make quickly over a cup of tea. “We are never mad. never.”

Another thing Adele credits her permanent partnership with? Spend more and more time together. “We never go anywhere by ourselves. We never work by ourselves. We always discuss things. “

Adele’s most cherished memories with Evan include the time she spent traveling and dancing together. He said, “We never danced.” Oh, my God – it was a pleasure, dancing and dancing, and when we got home, we would put the record player back on again, ”she says with a laugh.

The happy couple likes to participate in home entertainment and special events when they can, says Tiziana Secomankini, an associate of the facility where the Lizers live. “They spend a lot of time together.”

The couple live on the same floor, so Evan can watch movies and TV with Adele in her room, when the residence is not facing an outbreak of Kovid. The couple completed a private candlelight dinner this Valentine’s Day complete with music and decorations and flowers for Adele.

“She is a very quiet gentleman, but she really cares for him,” Ceccomancini says. Adele would have no other way to do it. “The best thing we ever did was to share our lives together,” says Adele. “we were meant to be together.”

Edward and Maggie Taylor: “I just want to hold her hand”

Edward and Maggie Taylor, who are both 90, met on the first day of Edward's school in Canada when they were 16 years old.

Edward and Maggie Taylor have survived some of the biggest challenges of love together in their 67 years of protecting high school from pandemics and disease.

Taylor, who is both 90, met at Edward’s school in Canada when he was 16 years old. “We had an obnoxious schoolboy,” says Edward. The teacher pushed her to share her full name when she introduced herself to the class. “I said Edward Thomas Charles Taylor. Well, except Maggie, the whole room was uprooted.

The couple got married a few years later and had a honeymoon in Hamilton. “We get out of the car, we’re both involved in confetti, and there was a Steelworkers Conference going on,” says Edward. “We come to the room, and this is the wrong room. We had to go back downstream and revolve around it. And finally we get a room, and we get too tired to do anything. We just slept in each other’s arms. “

The couple now live at Chartwell Westbury Long Term Care Residence in Abobicoke, but are on separate floors due to Maggie’s health condition. During the epidemic most of the couple’s communications have been on video calls, but this has not kept them down. In fact, Edward attributes the longevity of his marriage to a bit of space. “I think you need some distance at times,” he says. “I think we got along very well because we weren’t in each other’s pockets all the time.”

When they go to meet, Edward holds Maggie’s hand and sings to her; Bing Crosby’s “You Must Have Been a Beautiful Baby” is a favorite. Maggie has Parkinson’s and dementia and is no longer able to respond. Even though Maggie’s situation may be tough on Edward, her love for him comes from everyone who witnesses their relationship. “He said to me, ‘I don’t need to say anything,'” says Mark Recto, programs and support services manager at Chartwell Westbury. “I just have to hold her hand.”

Recto says that Edward’s devotion to Maggie is inspiring. Before the epidemic, “they were always together. [Their] The relationship is not defined by illness; It is defined by time, challenges and the experience they have shared together. “Edward tells Recto that he knows Maggie can feel her presence. “I love him,” Edward says. “I always will.”

Maria and João Caterino: “It was beautiful to see them dance”

Maria and Joa Catarino married 57 years ago in a small village in their hometown of Portugal.

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Maria and João Caterino spent almost every Saturday night dancing together, surrounded by family and friends. According to their daughter Suzie Caterino, they took a similar approach to their relationship while dancing during their 57 years of marriage.

The couple married in a small village in their hometown of Portugal. After moving to Canada in 1968, he celebrated and shared his joy with his community on weekends at the local Portuguese club. “They loved to dance together,” says Suzi, who went to the club with her family. “There was an affair; They were very good together. It was beautiful to see them dancing. ”

79-year-old Maria has Alzheimer’s and now lives in Chartwell Kawarthra Gardens Long Term Care Residence in Mississauga. Joao, 82, is designated as an essential carer and visits her every day, twice a day. They have COVID testing twice a week, which provides PPE and has been vaccinated.

“I think for her, my mom was like a superwoman,” Suzy says. “He managed everything: the house, the children, everything that was around him.” Now it’s Joao’s turn. “I think my father feels that he took such good care of him and our family for so many years that he now deserves them.”

During his visits, João meets his wife’s every need. He talks to her, grabs her hair, and watches TV while holding her hand. She even gets to buy La Roshe-Posey face cream from Suzi, which she lovingly puts on Maria’s face as a “beautiful lady”. He dusts off the “millions of photos” of the two he brings to decorate his room. “It’s like a temple,” Suzi says. “There are photographs everywhere.”

Suzi says that her parents have given a wonderful example of a solid, balanced partnership. “There were conflicts, but somehow they pushed through a time that was not so much fun. She knew when to push him and he knew when to stop. “Suzy compares his marriage to a hobby he loved so much. “It was almost like the perfect dance,” she says. He said, “Sometimes someone moves too fast and you have to catch up, but somehow you have to work it out together. And they certainly did. “

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